DATING LOVE TIPZ

Creating Tension for a Great First Kiss

2007-11-09T23:14:00.000-08:00

Good relationships tend to have some element of surprise and the unexpected in them. The key ingredient? Tension.
While it may seem counterproductive, tension actually helps to create a positive environment. Tension is critical in the early stages of a relationship and can be a healthy stepping-stone in establishing a deeper connection down the road. Create tension for your first kiss and you'll be off to a strong start.
Stormy seas or smooth sailing?
In a new relationship, most men make the mistake of rushing forward like Speedy Gonzales most men make the mistake of rushing
forward like Speedy Gonzales. Inadvertently they end up killing tension. They forget that all the fun and memories are created when you survive a stormy sea. A relationship without tension is like a boat on a placid lake: ultimately it creates a status quo experience, and nobody wants to be plain old status quo.
Imagine a romantic evening at your place over a bottle of wine. If you are like most men, you simply wait for the wine to take effect to see how far things will go. A better approach is to use the evening as an opportunity to create tension, thus establishing a stronger foundation for your future relationship together.
Here is how to play out the scenario to create tension:

You: Lean over to casually play with her hair while talking to her.
Her: She seems not to mind as you continue to talk.
You: Intentionally stop playing with her hair. Wait a minute and start playing with her hair again.
Her: She reacts to this by smiling while you continue to chat.
You: Stop playing with her hair and look into her eyes.
Her: She puts her hand on your leg and starts caressing it.
You: Start playing more intensely with her hair and slowly move in to give her a soft kiss on each Pull back for a moment to create tension
cheek. Pull back for a moment to create tension Pull back for a moment to create tension. Then lean in to give her a slow kiss on the lips.
You: Stop kissing her while still playing with her hair. (Note: You are pulling back with the kissing while still moving forward.)
You: Lean in to kiss her again and after a few moments (maybe 30 seconds), you will feel her energy opening up indicated by the pressure of her lips now pressing on yours. The key here is that she is initiating the pressure.
You: Gently pull the pressure off your lips and pull your lips back. This triggers her increasing the pressure.
Be consistently inconsistent
With glasses fogging over, I think you get the idea. The idea is that the constant "push and pull" creates in her the desire of continually wanting more. It amps up the chemistry.
On a deeper level, you are also sending information that you are a patient man who is self-disciplined. Self-disciplined men are more attractive to women because they are more likely to have self-discipline in other areas of life -- a necessary trait for success.
Pulling back and pushing forward also has the benefit of sending mixed signals to her nervous system, keeping it from being able to adjust.
The result leaves the receiver feeling wonderful. Remember, one thing you should do when being physical with a women is to be consistently inconsistent. It's one of the few forms of inconsistency she'll appreciate!

Handling Rejection When Dating

2007-11-09T23:13:00.001-08:00

Rejection is one of our greatest fears and a fear that can do some of the greatest damage to us. When dealing with dating matters, rejection is a subject never very far away. Being rejected by someone makes us feel small, worthless, insecure and unwanted. We lose our self confidence and want to crawl into our shells until we feel stronger again. We may do something outrageous instead, something on the rebound to exact some from of revenge. That can make us feel better. The fact is, being rejected hurts, whoever we are.

Most people like being loved and like being popular. It makes us feel good about ourselves. We sometimes meet grumpy people who say that they don't care what others think of them and whilst there maybe be one or two who do think that way, most of us hate being not liked. The way we handle rejection though is dependent on many self factors, our childhood, the way we were brought up, our earliest relationships etc.

Rejection comes in many forms, from a partner being unfaithful to a loved one moving out or calling off a relationship for good. Rejection may come in the smallest of ways, from someone making no effort on your behalf on an important occasions to a partner who simply falls out of love. Rejection can be a date who doesn't show up or a date who says that they don't want to take things further. But whatever the scenario, of you are on the receiving end of rejection you need to spend some time keeping things in perspective by looking at the bigger picture and relating it to the many positive aspects of your life.

The way we handle rejection is important in helping us keep our self esteem and dignity. When we are rejected we often want to go crazy and blame ourselves for being rejected when the reality is its usually the other person's problem, not ours. But when we are rejected if we are nice people we can forgive and forget fairly easily and make excuses for the person rejecting us. If we do that we are not helping ourselves. If we are rejected the best thing we can do is to move on, in time.

Being rejected hurts. The person you entrusted with hopes, desires and feelings has turned round and said that they don't want personal involvement with you. When this happens you immediately move into blame mode. It must be, in some way or another, your fault for being rejected. Maybe its the way you look, your shape or height, your hair or lack of it. Maybe the way you acted , the things you said or the things you did that caused the rejection. You ask yourself is there was anything you could have done to prevent it. Lots of "maybes". These are all natural questions we ask ourselves in the rejection process but they are the things we should try and avoid.

The fear of rejection is a debilitating issue. It stops us doing all the things we should. It stops us approaching the person we really like. Rejection is the curse, confidence is the cure. The way to fix rejection is to balance with confidence building pastimes, activities and thoughts and good times. If you feel good about yourself then you know some truths about yourself too. You know if you are good at your job, if you are organized, well dressed, in shape etc. You don't need to worry about what other people think about you to feel happy about yourself which in turn means that if a date doesn't go well or someone simply doesn't like you then , well , we can't all please everyone can we. To be exact, the more confident you are, the better you will be able to cope with some forms of rejection.

It is beyond the scope of this brief article to suggest ways of dealing with the feelings of rejection that we feel from the failure of a marriage or long term relationship, from fidelity or major domestic drama. But what is true in most cases is that when we are rejected we will come back stronger than ever, over time. Rejection in many instances moves us into a time of reflection and thought, of new perspectives and inner learning. It is a useful process because it also allows us to learn about ourselves.

The thing that annoys me most of all about rejection when dating is the lack of honesty in people. When someone doesn't like you they should say so. When they don't intend to see you again then say so. If they are not going to call then they should admit it. There is nothing more refreshing on a single date that either party being honest and saying that they would prefer to leave it there. When we are lied to, the feeling of rejection is compounded.

Another interesting facet of rejection is that there are people out there who will reject before they themselves are rejected. Its a kind of defense mechanism. If they feel they are not doing too well, they will dump you, before you may possibly dump them. I know some people who have told me that they have never been rejected or dumped because they always do it first. So keep that in mind if someone rejects you.

I don't have all the quick answers to this complex topic but I will say that if you learn about yourself, get to know your weaknesses and find ways of keeping your perspective open, your realism levels in tact, your humor great and your confidence bubbling then rejection will wash over you from time to time easier than if you don't. Looking back on my life, if I were to imagine myself with most of the people who have rejected me, I couldn't. That is because they were never right for me in the first place.

Dating Gifts: Buying Your Date the Right Gift

2007-11-09T23:13:00.000-08:00

Buying a gift for a date is prone to disaster so some careful thinking is involved. You meet someone, you like them, you want to please them so its only natural in our commercial world to want to get your plastic out and start spending. Wrong, stop an think about what you are doing. Gifts don't buy love so neither do you. You love someone and they love you for genuine emotional reasons. Yes buying a present or two emphasizes kindness but it doesn't play a major factor. For those who are well impressed by all gifts received, do yourself a favor and steer well clear.

To buy a dating gift well you need to know your lover first, well enough to surprise them and show some of your excellent imagination. The smallest amount of imagination shows forethought and kindness and it shows that you listen well. Which in a man's case is hugely to his advantage when dating. Listen to her and surprise her later, much later.

When you first begin dating, you should show your knowledge and appreciation of the things you have learned about your new partner in very simple terms. For men you should buy flowers, small amounts of pretty natural flowers, not glaring bouquets of red roses. Don't buy flowers every day because everything in large amounts is heavily devalued. Always give in person where you can as deliveries are too impersonal. Also look for pictures and books that she likes, the smallest of teddy bears perhaps and leave it there. For women, its often hard to buy for men but most have some keen interests in a sport or hobby they will have talked about and therefore once again keep it small but pertinent.

You should not then buy further presents until your dating evolves over the next 3 months. If a birthday arises then buy the other dinner as a treat and perhaps the smallest of dating gifts. If Christmas or a religious festival arises in this early period again keep it small and personal.

At the end of 3 months buy a gift for your partner that signifies this small landmark, just one item. Don't make a big thing out of it but make it personal and in keeping with the character of your date. Splashing out on a trip to Venice can wait for your honeymoon. Guys, keep getting your lover small bunches of flowers and mean it when you give them.

You should then infrequently treat your partner with gifts until your first anniversary at which stage you can then let your imagination run riot. Once you approach your first year you really will be on the right road and now is the time to splash out and buy something more significant, whether it be a piece of keepsake jewelry or a watch or luxury item.

I know one couple who are friends who now buy each other more than 100 presents each at Christmas time.. It is their way of going crazy over each other and they both get immense satisfaction in the amount of creative thinking involved in selecting presents. However this kind of lavishness (if you can afford it) does come, but not until later. When you begin dating never forget that it is about the two of you, about your feelings and that no amount of gifts, large or small will make things better. If anything, large amounts of gifts early on can only have a negative effect by devaluing the whole dating experience.

The sad things is that most long term relationships crumble under infidelity or money problems. Don't begin life with your new partner on the wrong foot. If you cannot afford an expensive dating gift, that is fine.

Our Top Dating Gifts

Small bunches of natural flowers

Quality perfume or cologne

Cards and messages

Paying for dinner

Theater and concert tickets

Paying for a small trip

A well-researched book

First Impression to First Date

2007-11-09T18:45:00.000-08:00

By Steve Furlong 26/03/2007 www.DrDating.com

So you made a great first impression. And that led to scoring a phone number or e-mail address, which led to your first date. Sure, you are attracted to the guy and had some great conversation, but the first date- where it is just you and him- has you a little bit nervous. Here are some tips on what to do- and what not to do- as you take the first step in what could end up turning into a relationship.

What to Bring Checklist:

Cash- In a day of debit cards, we sometimes forget that green exists- but you will need this for tips, meters and more. Credit/Debit Card- you never know when a good night will turn great and youll need extra dough!

Positive Attitude- If you cant find one to bring, you may as well cancel! Sense of Humor- This will make you relax- and show your funny side. Most everyone likes keen wit- but everyone has a different sense of humor, so filter yours accordingly. There is another reason to bring this along. Everybody has quirks, so bringing along your sense of humor will allow you to make it through any situation that you are not comfortable with. Cell Phone/Calling Card- Just incase you need to call for a cab, or an emergency happens. (Note: Keep your cell phone off! You are not bringing it to talk on throughout your date!)

What to Talk about- Be armed with conversation pieces. Whats your favorite color? and Whats your favorite movie is a little grade school-esque. You are both grown men. Make sure your ammunition is full of fond memories of both childhood and adulthood. What cool things have you done in your life that would generate interest in your date? What things would make him want to learn more? Did you ever skydive or do community work? The goal here is not to try to impress (okay- maybe a little) or gloat, but to make things interesting. This could build respect and admiration.

What Not to Talk about- Yourself. Okay, of course you are going to talk about yourself, but stop! Let him ask questions about it. Leave out details to make him ask more- this will generate a great round of back-and-forth. Make sure you ask his opinions, and about his experiences in life. Make the table conversation even, so you both feel like you can go home knowing a lot about the other. And of course, you pals are going to ask about the date. Do you really want to answer like this: You know, I really dont know what hes like or what hes done- I never thought to ask Of course you dont.

What to Watch For- In a sociology class, I once learned why when applying for good jobs after the interview phase, employees and colleagues will take the applicant out to dinner. This is to get to know the person, and their habits a little better. On the surface, they may be likeable and have credentials, but dinner can say a lot about someone. Casual conversation could bring up a viewpoint that the company does not agree with. The same can go for dating. A personal ad is like a resume- and e-mail or phone conversation is like the interview. Or, if meeting someone in person, that is like the initial interview. Then the first date is the second interview my professor spoke of. You can look for things such as etiquette. Perhaps this is not important to you, and you go to a wing place where manners do not matter. But, if that is of importance to you, watch for clues. Watch how they eat, how they tip, etc.

The first date is important. It can make or break a relationship. But, please remember- if things do not go totally perfect, your date may be worthy of a second chance. Sometimes nerves- on your side or his- can cause excessive talking. (Silence can be good- it means you are comfortable with each other!) The days events- whether is be a rough day at work or a family matter- could have cause you or your date to act totally normal.

If you have a first date soon, we wish you many more.

Dating Thoughts: Ideas About Dating Today

2007-11-09T18:21:00.001-08:00

Dating is a relatively modern term to describe an age old tradition. Just to show how easy we forget the age of things, the word condom first appeared in 1706! Due to the vagueness of specific meaning and intent in the word "dating" it is a term that has become popular worldwide as the term of choice for meeting new people on a romantic basis. We don't begin dating to become friends, we date to become lovers, partners, boyfriends and girlfriends. We can argue that the word literally means that one has reserved this day or date for a particular person.

Of course dating in many countries is not the most common term, in areas of the UK we still see people using terms like "courting", "going out with", "stepping out with" or "seeing". All terms have the same function, which is to describe a higher level of meeting with a person than just friendship.

A few generations ago we would have determined dating as a courtship ritual leading to marriage and however much you my wish to disagree with me, hidden underneath our modern methods today, that is generally still the goal of most people. Dating for the sake of it is becoming more widespread, almost like a sport, but the vast majority of people dating are dating for fun and at the same time dating with a more serious intent too.

We are a great deal more traditional about dating than we care to admit. It is till often the case that a man will ask the permission of the partner's parent to marry their daughter. A very traditional gesture. It is also worth making a note that in Moslem and Arab traditions, dating is seen even by many of the young as interfering with the concept of family an dating is seen as threatening. With the influences of the West, of course dating is starting to invade every culture but do not think it is socially accepted everywhere. Do not forget either that in arranged marriage cultures, many men and women do have the chance to say 'no' to prospective partners, even thought the West often chooses not to accept that.

The purpose of dating is to meet someone we like on a romantic and personal level but dating can also mean casual sex too. Lets not be high handed here, there are plenty of people of both sexes for which dating is nothing more than physical contact. This can be due to age, attitude and outlook as well as desire. Its easy to take the moral high ground but people like to experiment sexually and like to find out just how compatible they are with someone else as much as about themselves physically before thinking about committing to someone. An to be honest why not. First sex on a wedding night is a romantic notion of decades past, but the idea that you could be married for life to a sexually incompatible person is terrifying to many.

Modern generations are far more liberated than preceding post war generations and consequently their priorities and check lists when dating are very different. Post AIDS, it is true that the most recent generations cannot be compared directly with the 60's generations in terms of free sex and open relationships due to simple health factors. Therefore dating does adapt with each new generation. New attitudes develop every 10 to 15 years so dating is a dynamic that has no presets you can argue. However, I come back to the same part of the equation as before, dating is a test of compatibility with the same long term goal, longer term or permanent union between two people.

The real change has been in recent years with the creation and development of a professional dating industry. From advisers and lifestyle experts to dating coaches and relationship counselors, to dating books and self-help videos. Then you have the plethora of dating agencies both on and off the Internet all aimed at help bringing people together. Dating hasn't gone anywhere, the desire for people to meet others is as strong as ever, and its become international due to new communication methods. Its now possible for people in Washington DC and Kuala Lumpur to get chatting online in seconds and form some meaningful relationship within a few hours. So all is not bad.

Like it or not, we are still the serious dating people we always were, and we still crave relationship stability. Skeptics can argue all they like that people don't want to marry anymore but I disagree, I think we just have different standards. It perhaps just takes more work in our dating lives, that's all.

Dating and Flowers are Inseparable for Romance

2007-11-09T18:19:00.001-08:00

Romance means flowers. They are beautiful creations of nature, colorful, delicate and small works of art. There are few women in this world who do not like receiving flowers and there are fewer still reasons why flowers should not be given throughout the year. Men still appear to have a problem with giving flowers and look completely lost in a decent florist. There are no excuses for this guys. So it is about time men got to grips with giving flowers to women more regularly.

The first thing that strikes me is that men often view flowers as superfluous, too expensive, a complete waste of cash or simply unnecessary. Well guys you are wrong on all counts. And just to be clear, the person writing this article is a man. A man who shows a knowledge of flowers and feels very comfortable selecting and purchasing for his lady is sexy, shows knowledge and confidence. He is happy with himself, his sexuality and his abilities. A man who doesn't know where a florist is, has hardly ever bought flowers, doesn't know pink ones from yellow ones is a pathetic creature who deserves to be single.

The worst kind of flower incident of the year has got to be Valentine's day. On this day the florists are crowded and the phone rings off the hook. The poor shops are under pressure from hoards of men who are clamoring for two dozen red roses for their loved ones. For the other 364 days a year such men don't even know where the florist is. Interflora and the many delivery firms are stretched to overload in delivering the same de rigueur flowers across the land. My problem is that there are so many beautiful flowers throughout the year that you could give and nowhere near as expensive as on 14 February. Your date would love to receive early spring flowers like tulips of daffodils. They would love to receive pink roses in June or even a single daisy in August.

The problem is that men often think that the act of buying flowers threatens their masculinity. They see the whole process as a chore, they often don't appreciate what they are buying and quite frankly it shows. It makes me angry when there are so many beautiful florists in each city that are largely ignored by them men of our world. I was not surprised to see in a local florists the other day an ad saying to women, he will never buy them so why not get your own. How sad an indictment is that.

I recommend that all men who have a problem with flowers should start getting their act together immediately. I am not asking that we should all know the Latin names of every plant out there but we should be getting to grips with the common varieties and exotic varieties now on offer and then get into the groove of buying them spontaneously. My sister's house always smells fresh and beautiful from the white lilies her boyfriend buys her very regularly. That's impressive. I recommend the following tips:

Locate a good local or city florist

Always keep a reliable delivery number in your wallet

Never send flowers every day, its cheap and tacky

Learn the basics about flowers and their colors

Know the seasonal flowers and the filler flowers like Gypsophilia

Get used to the fact that flowers cost money

Find out what kind of flowers your loved one likes

Join a short evening class at your local florist if possible

Never rely on red roses as being the only flower worth giving

Be adventurous and go for single exotic flowers occasionally

A single well chosen flower speaks volumes of romance

Never be afraid to carry flowers down a street, you look good my friend.

Flowers do not need to be expensive, they are only expensive at Christmas or on Valentine's day. Learn to go for the simple approach with flowers and select by color. Know which plants last longest also helps you get value for money. If possible get flowers in an arrangement that is made especially for you in the shop but don't go mad with size. Big is not necessarily best. Select arrangements that have a water ball at the bottom to keep them fresh.

And remember guys, you don't just need to spontaneously buy your girlfriend flowers, you can buy for your mum and her mum too. Flowers are an act of giving which display thought and good choice without being inappropriate or expensive. Show your class.

How Teasing Women Can Make You More Attractive

2007-10-22T03:15:00.001-07:00

By Scott
Being a nice guy usually doesn't get you too far with women. I'm sure this is nothing you have not heard before. Women tend to feel that nice guys are sweet but also boring and unchallenging. They may tell all their friends about how nice you are, but unfortunately leave out anything about being attracted to you.

Of course, I am not suggesting you turn off all nice guy attributes and become an arrogant asshole. That will surely not get you far either. You may find yourself the topic of conversation, but not in a positive way.

The secret is to introduce humor into your conversations with women. A great way to do this and effectively build the attraction is to go with "cocky and funny." You need to give the impression of a little cockiness yet mixed in with some good humor.

The best method is to tease her throughout the conversation but do with in a friendly manner. Generally, as odd as this may sound, you should treat her like you would a bratty little sister especially when you are first meeting her.

Many men are not quite clear on the importance of humor when meeting women. They wonder why they need to use it, why it really is so important and how to do it in a way that will actually help them attract women. Over-used, two-line jokes is not what I am talking about.

Remember, being cocky and funny during the discussion will project the attitude you need. And, it is all about attitude. Women are attracted to interesting, challenging and confident men and being funny is directly correlated to this attitude.

Additionally, introducing your humorous side will make the conversation more enjoyable and she will have fun being around you. Logically, the more fun she has when she is with you the more she will want to be around you again.

Now, you may think that this all sounds rather counterproductive. You may be asking why you would want to make fun of a woman you want to pick-up. Let me explain why teasing is really such an effective way to make you more attractive to her.

First, she can see that you have a sense of humor and enhance a conversation. She will not feel pressured to "carry the conversation" or make it interesting. It will also help her relax and bit, as it will be easier to avoid those awkward silent moments.

Secondly, you are avoiding the nice-guy syndrome by suggesting that you are consumed with pleasing her. The last thing you want to do is give the impression that you are focused solely on making her like you and will do whatever it takes.

Finally, projecting a good combination of cocky and funny reverses the roles and makes her work for your affection. She will not be able to figure out 100% if you are interested, and will take that as somewhat

of a challenge. This is important at this stage of attraction because it, in and of itself, will help build attraction.

On a practical note, making fun of a woman includes such things as calling her out on comments she makes. Or, bring in a few sexual innuendos into the conversation. Tell a humorous, sex-related story or even use some of her comments and twist them into sexual innuendos.

I must mention before moving on that introducing sexual innuendos into the conversation is a great way to build some sexual tension. There is "attraction" and then there is "sexual tension." Aim for both if you can!

Ultimately, going with the cocky and funny approach helps create a situation in which she is not sure if you are into her. She will begin to subconsciously view you as a challenge and want to work for your attention.

By brining humor into the conversation, she will view you as an interesting person worth the effort on her part. In the end, you have created the best situation to help you progress to the next level.

Why Does Social Proof Attract Women?

2007-10-22T03:12:00.001-07:00

By Dan
It doesn't matter if you are in a forest, a supermarket, a nightclub, or a busy city - people will be influenced by your social proof.

Social proof is one of the most potent ways of influencing the social behavior of others.

How does social proof work?

Put simply, human beings will often look to others to determine how they should behave and feel.

"Since 95 percent of the people are imitators and only 5 percent initiators, people are persuaded more by the actions of others than by any proof we can offer." Cavett Robert

The belief behind social proof is: If enough people are thinking/doing it then it MUST be true/the right thing to do.

Here's an example: You walk into a bar and immediately start talking to women. Other women who notice this will assume that you are liked by women and thus see you as an attractive option.

When you are accepted socially and have a lot of people interested in you, the amount of people who are interested in you will increase exponentially.

Think of celebrities. Celebrities are liked by more people the more popular they become. They may also be hated by jealous people, but that isn't their problem. A male celebrity can literally have billions of women who are sexually interested in him. Imagine that!

Let's scale it down to normal reality where 99.99% of us won't become superstars or celebrities. Would if be fair to estimate that as a normal guy you could have hundreds of women who are sexually interested in you...each week?

The answer you're looking for is YES!

* Creating Social Proof if You Aren't a Celebrity or High-Status Person

Walk around and behave as if it is your club/party/social event/bookstore/etc and that all the people there are your friends or your guests.

Hence my conversation starter that I like to use, "Hey guys - what's happenin...I just got here...this place is cool...what's been happening for you guys so far tonight?"

Assume rapport with everyone including the staff. Think about it.

If you were a confident social person, how would you behave in your own home when you had guests over? Here are some ideas:

- Walk around and say hi to people, "Hey guys, is everyone here having a good time tonight? Excellent...cheers! Then clink glasses with some of them, or just walk off like you are going to 'check in' with the next group.
- High-5 people and say "Hi" or "Hey, what's going on!"
- Warmly greet the bar staff and waiters like they are old friends.
- Confidently project your voice when talking.
- Take over a section of the bar/club/venue and make it yours. Stand/sit there, respectfully move tables and chairs to suit, etc.
- Introduce yourself to strangers.

* Social Proof Through Conversation

Although actions will always speak louder than words, social proof can also be related through conversation.

Another example: You might start talking to a woman and end up telling her about how you and 10 of your close friends went to the snow last winter and hired out a log cabin. Such a story demonstrates that:

a) You have friends.
b) You are accepted by

a large number of people, who trust you enough to be alone with you.
c) You are adventurous enough to go to the snow and stay in a log cabin.

* The Gravitational Pull Towards Socially Successful or 'Popular' People

Have you ever noticed that people tend to gravitate toward those who have larger social circles, a lot of alliances, or who are popular or successful?

Why is that? It's a survival instinct. Long before we developed functional societies that offered goods & services - food, shelter and safety were more easily found when we stuck with a larger tribe. It also meant that we would have more options of people to breed with.

In developed worlds, people who maintain large social circles and lots of alliances are viewed with more favor than those who don't.

So what should that tell you? Be social, create a lot of alliances and give off signals that you are a high-status male who deserves only the best.

Work on creating more success for yourself and build your social circle with relevant people.

The result: People will instinctively begin to gravitate towards you to ensure their survival and you will have more opportunities to create even more success with women.

Find The Love Of Your Life Online

2007-10-22T03:11:00.001-07:00

By neil

The odds of finding your soul-mate online are a lot better than you may think. It doesnt happen for everyone, of course, but it can happen for you. The world of internet or online dating has exploded over the last few years.

As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.

The old saying, You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and money not to mention lip burn.

These are a few good reasons to consider online dating:

(1)There is a wide range of men to choose from. You arent limited to the men in your social circle or work environment.

(2)You have the opportunity to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. Youll even see a picture of him.

(3)You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their online profile.

(4)Online dating is certainly a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.

Create a great profile at your dating website and the first email that you send to another member an absolute stunner. Online meeting has become a norm, and is gaining in acceptability. Seems like everywhere we surf on the Internet nowadays we run across this little advertisement: 'Free online personals'.

The emergence of the Internet and the Web has transformed our planet into a digitalized global village. Online dating is simply a free dating service that you use via the Internet. If you are looking for a date, but still are a bit skeptical about using an online dating service, give it a try.

Some dating web sites just ask for very basic information before attempting to match you to a potential partner. By using an online dating service, you dont have to wait

until the weekend to meet someone. You can easily have more fun with a woman when all of the pressure is off.

Using an online dating service to find dates was once frowned upon and even considered scary. There are many online dating sites that have very short sign-up processes and others that require you to answer lots of questions. Online dating is not all fun and games and there are a lot of things that a person has to know about online dating before one gets into the intricacies of it.

The traditional argument for not using the internet to meet someone is that it is not natural. Whether you find your date online or in person, you could end up with a true love or a broken heart. Online dating is now a huge industry. If an online dater sends you threatening e-mails or makes you feel uncomfortable, you can simply report themto the online dating service and have their account revoked.

Personal Goal Setting To Achieve Success With Women

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When it comes to success with women & dating, personal goal setting is a MUST if you want get FAST results.

Personal goal setting replaces the 'vagueness' of your goals with women & dating (e.g. "I want to date women") and replaces it with a crystal clear plan for you to achieve total success, in the fastest amount of time possible.

"A goal properly set is halfway reached."
Abraham Lincoln, the 16th President of the United States (1861-1865)

Do yourself a favor and listen to Abraham Lincoln's wise words.

This exercise will only take you 5-10 minutes. Who doesn't have that amount of time, if it means getting to where you want to be 50% faster?

Grab a pen and paper, or open a new file in your technology device to answer the following questions:

- What does success with women and dating mean to me?
- How will I feel when I get there?
- How will I feel if I don't work out this area of my life and don't get what I want?
- On a scale of 1-10, how committed am I to working on this?

Now that you're in the right frame of mind, it's time to get you started on the 6-Step Personal Goal Setting Formula:

STEP 1: Decide Exactly What You Want

If you have vague goals, then you will get vague results. The clearer you can get this in your mind, the better your results will be. Ask yourself, "What am I actually trying to achieve with all this?"

Picture it and describe it. Write down:

- How you would feel if you had this area of your life handled.
- What your life would be like.
- How you would be thinking about yourself.
- How you would behave around women and people.
- What your relationship status would be - would you rather be dating new women all the time, having short-term relationships, long-term relationships, or even married?

Is it starting to become clearer?

STEP 2: Set a Time Limit to Achieve Your Goals

Have you ever been given a deadline to complete something, say at school or work? Maybe at first you thought you'd never have it completed on time.

But you managed to achieve the goal within the specified time frame. Why?

Because you focused on the achievement of the goal. It had to be done, so you did it.

In STEP 4 you will be able to set time limits to your various mini-goals.

Some of your goals will be achieved quickly; others may take months or even years depending on how much effort you put in.

One of the rewarding parts of personal goal setting is seeing the goals turn into reality. Put 'time pressure' on things and you'll be amazed what happens.

STEP 3: Determine What is Required to Achieve Your Goals

Create a list of all the things you will need to do and add to the list as you go. You should look at your list at least once a week and see how you are tracking.

Here are some examples that may apply to your list, if you're looking to get better with women & dating:

- Buy new bed sheets.
- Practice vibing with people.
- Buy new shirt from ______ store.
- Buy new cologne from _________.
- Remember to use proper mindsets when at the supermarket.
- Start greeting people with a more confident hello.

STEP 4: Organize Your List into a Plan, With Priorities

If we were to use the six items above to make a plan with priorities, what would be their order?

I'd suggest something like this:

1. Remember to use proper mindsets when at the supermarket.
2. Start greeting people with a more confident hello.
3. Practice vibing with people.

The final three items can go in any order you deem necessary.

The most important point to remember when working

on personal goal setting in this area, is: Work on YOU and your personality before you work on external or material things.

4. Buy new shirt from ______ store.
5. Buy new cologne from _________.
6. Buy new bed sheets.

STEP 5: Take Action on Your Plan

It's all well and good to get enthusiastic about personal goal setting now that you have a plan, but you need to use it in order for it to have an effect.

Choose a convenient time to review your plan regularly. For example: After eating dinner or while brushing your teeth before bed. This is your chance to get focused and take action to accelerate your progress toward total success with women & dating.

Don't waste ANY more time living a style of life that you're unhappy with.

STEP 6: Move Closer to Success Each Day

What are some of your current habits?

Maybe you're one of those people who like to read before going to bed. Maybe you like to exercise at least twice a week. Whatever your habits, we all have them and STEP 6 is designed to help you get into the habit of working on your goals.

Generally speaking, it will take 3-6 weeks for most people to form a habit. However, a person's motivation and dedication to achieving their goals will have a major influence on the time it takes.

If ever you find yourself wondering what you need to be working on to get closer to achieving your goals, be sure to refer back to STEP 4.

How To Date Older Women

2007-10-22T03:02:00.001-07:00

Gone are those days when people sneered at Anne Bancroft as Mrs. Robinson trying to seduce a young Dustin Hoffman in ‘The Graduate’. These days, Demi Moore doesn’t shy away from strutting with her toyboy Ashton Kutcher. Keep in mind age is just a number. Compatibility and communication, not calendar years, keep a relationship going. Her experience, if combined with your energy and intelligence, can surely lead to a mind-blowing chemistry.

Here are some tips for making your dating hour with older women a roaring success:

Elder women yearn for respect far more than the younger lot. So, pay her the respect she deserves. Don’t ever show that you are doing any mercy to her by taking her out for a date.

Never try to remind her of her actual age and don’t ever take advantage of her age. Showing embarrassment in front of her due to your age gap can make her feel awkward.

Two persons from two separate generations can surely share the same likings. Make her favorite movies and music your topic of discussion.

Use every sort of superlatives while complementing on her looks, make-up, hairstyle and sense of dressing. Try to mention the best of her features. Make her feel like a queen.

Stop from reminding her of her previous unsuccessful relationships and failed marriages. It can spoil her date. You can ask her about her about her past experiences, but you should also know when and where to draw the line. Don’t force her to speak about her ex-husband or former boyfriend. Always try to concentrate on such topics in which she is comfortable to converse.

There’s no need to feel that your lack of experience may become an obstacle in your relationship. Instead, try to sharpen those qualities of yours that have lured the older lady to go on a date with you. If she is not concerned about the age difference, then it mustn’t bother you either.

She may have come for a date to rejuvenate her love life. Make her day by presenting her a bouquet of roses. Make your sense of humor your strongest weapon. Making her laugh too often indicates you two are going ahead for a steady and healthy liaison.

If you try too hard to look and act like a matured guy, then it may turn her off, because it’s your youth and exuberance that have drawn her closer to you. Be yourself and if showing a little bit of immaturity makes her heart aflutter, then let it be. Give her some time to understand your level of maturity.

Behave like a gentleman when she introduces you in her circle of friends. They may not accept your relationship easily, so keep your cool. You are free to ‘back out’ at the last moment if your dating situation turns out to be too serious for you.

Never develop such notion that she has lost the appetite for sex. She needs as much as sexual pleasure as you do. Remember that with age, certain changes take place in a woman’s body that leads to slower rate of sexual arousal. So, you are supposed to be a bit more patient while initiating sexual foreplay and act accordingly. But, instead rushing for sex, spend precious time discussing about each other’s hobbies and passions. Keep talking about your innermost fantasies. That can help in igniting her lost passion.

Your ego may get a huge blow if you see her more successful in the professional sphere. How will you feel when your financially more affluent partner pays the bill after dinner? So, try to reach

a compromise through discussion with your partner and make her understand your situation.

Dating an older woman doesn’t mean that you will leave all your work and join the party she is enjoying along with her friends. There should be enough space between your and her social lives. If you devote considerable amount of time in your own activities besides meeting her regularly, then it will surely help in earning her admiration. Your success will make her smile and she will be proud of you.

Older women, being naturally insecured, are often jealous of their younger counterparts. So, your words of reassurance are essential to calm her down. Always be caring and nurturing towards them. If you serve her food in your on hands, she will be more than happy. Be her strong support system at the time of despair.

Don’t assume that being younger, you will take an upper hand in the relationship. Don’t throw tantrums and act like a spoilt brat when things are not going your way. Never try to play with her emotions. She may not be forgiving always. If she feels, she may teach you a lesson or two. She has seen a lot more of life. So, never take her for granted.

And… after a few dates…

Ask yourself whether you are ready to become the stay-at-home-dad of her children from previous marriage. What will be your answer?

General Dating Rules for Women

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Guys, if you don't like this, tough - look away now.

In another dating article on this site you will find a general set of rules than men should follow when dating. In the same way women have some general rules that they should content with when entering the dating jungle. Now I know everyone is different so don't take things too seriously here. There has been some controversy over some literature published recently in the USA that sets out in detail the rules a woman should follow to get her guy (or woman). Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider's 1995 bestseller "The Rules," explains how women should play hard if they want to get their guy. I can understand why some groups would be hostile but the fact is when we grow up there are a predefined set of dating rules. All that happens is that we forget most of them after the age of 21 and then find we need to relearn them.

I wish there weren't any general rules and we just got on with it but courtship is a ritual; there are things that we make happen that excite stimulate, create interest, confound etc. Dating is a long test of compatibility. Are we perfectly matched? If we just threw ourselves together then the chances of long term happiness may be reduced. And yet previous generations managed to succeed on a far less complex courtship criteria list. Many arranged marriages work too interestingly.

In every society there are a predefined set of social rules we follow, from the way and timing of eating to the way we behave in public. The issue here is that when women date there are things that can help them be more successful. If we accept that dating is a game then there are rules to that game and winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance it gives you a head start. If men know the rules by which you are playing you may change the rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing. Men love a challenge so feel free to adapt rule and add them as you feel inclined.

You can separate rules out into two parts, dating and online dating. Both areas have distinct rules that a woman should follow for dating success.

General Dating Rules

Always look great, whatever your income. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick and wearing rags will still turn his head. You have the advantage, you are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time.

Never reveal information you don't have to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild.

Keep dates brief but your men interested. Less is always more.

Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your Mr. Right loves your body as much as your mind.

Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.

Ensure you receive flowers, if he doesn't know what a florist is, dump him.

Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.

Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady's perogative.

Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.

If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.

Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.

Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.

Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practise on a mirror if you have to.

Never ever talk about previous boyfriends and particularly their prowess in the bedroom. The number of ex boyfriends is your business only.

Never pre suppose anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking

If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity run like the wind. Life is too short for boys.

If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace dump him

Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.

Never ever come across as too available or too desperate, he will run a mile. He is the one doing the chasing remember.

If the guy in the corner is gorgeous go and get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.

You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.

If you are wanting a child, don't mention it on the first few dates.

Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.

Online Dating Rules

Always let them come to you, don't chase via email

Block anyone who annoys you instantly

Place the best & most vampish photo up you can find

Don't reply to instant messages with clever opening lines

Remain aloof and let yourself be chased

Always reply to emails at least 3 days after receipt

Never provide you true email or phone details to the man

Always date safely and protect yourself at every turn

Make sure your login name is stunning and sexy as well as enigmatic

Do not login for hours on end. Short, rapid visits are best

Do not assume the man you are talking to is destitute or sad

Never ever reply to emails at weekends, wait until a weekday

Never state how good your sexual performance is in your profile

If you don't want to date married men spell it out in your profile

A man who doesn't reply to your email within 3 days should be ignored

Make sure your humor levels come across in text

Do not chat to hundreds of men at once, the delay in replying is a dead giveaway and your Mr. Right will be off.

Don't even think about misrepresenting your size or description. They will find out.

Come across as cool and sophisticated for best results

Always remember ladies that you are a sexy desirable woman and the world is your oyster. Always let men do the chasing and always let yourself be the chooser. Always stay safe and never risk yourself for the sake of attending a date. Always use a safe dating website like LoveBrowser.com

General Dating Rules for Men

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You are a guy who knows how to date, you are a guy who hasn't dated in years, you are a guy who has never been successful with women. Whatever your situation there are some common dating rules to follow when venturing into the dating jungle. These rules are simply to protect your emotional state and to ensure even handed success. Women are trained from day one in the art of dating warfare. They have a physical and emotional arsenal that you may never hope to match. But don't be outgunned, be prepared my friends as the dating battle isn't over yet buddy.

1. Look your best. Get some decent clothes and shoes. Women always look at your shoes even if the last time you checked your Nike's out was 1996. Get clothes that fit you, suit you and are contemporary. Don't just buy one outfit, sort out your entire wardrobe. If you can't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of her? Oh yes and buy a good well tailored suit, there is no excuse not to.

2. Get your hygiene and styling sorted out. Down to the barbers and sort out your hair, get a decent style if possible. If you don't have much hair still get down to the salon and either get your head shaved or something you can handle. Then it is off to the shops with you for good quality cologne and a grooming kit. Yes that means some expense. Men are so often criticized for smelling bad. Get into a regular showering routine and smell good always. Women appreciate it.

3. Sort out your job if you have one. Women want a man who has some ambition in life so coasting along as a skateboard instructor is generally not going to win you a real catch (by the way I love skateboarding!). Any job is better than none, but knuckle down and sort out some direction in your life. Change job if need be but at least try and look like you you have something of a career. If you have a manual job, at least have some plans to work for yourself. If you already do, then you are on the right track but know what you are about work wise and have some idea of your future because they will be asking questions about your prospects even if they pretend it isn't important. It is.

4. Get your knowledge levels up. Make sure you are up to date with current affairs, watch the news and read quality papers. Women do not appreciate stupidity and laziness is no excuse either. Current affairs are important in showing you know all about the world outside. If you travel a lot then this will help tremendously, if you don't have plans to travel, get some. Being able and willing to sort out vacations is essential in the grand scheme of things.

5. Do not extol the virtues of drinking in the bar 5 nights a week. This will never win any fair princess's heart. If you love your booze sort yourself out as there are other things in life too. Taking your lady for a drink is fine, but give them the impression that you live in there will get you absolutely nowhere - fast.

6. If you love your sport then fine,. If sport is a religion you may have a problem but everything by degrees guys. If you are serious about dating then ramming the subject of soccer, ball games or football down your date's throat will put them off in record time. Sport to the uninitiated is completely boring and shows not only sheep mentality to a woman but lack of thought, creativity or inspiration. Millions of girls love sport too and that is fine but don't make your passion into a one-sided one.

9. Never expect sex on a first date. If all you are after is sex you have come to the wrong place for reading material. If you are looking for the girl of your dreams there is nothing more sexy than a patient man. You are easily capable of waiting for the right woman so do it instead of thinking with your balls.

10. Sort out your educational knowledge of manners, courtesy and chivalry. A woman likes being treated well, particularly with respect. Lose the coarse language, the swear words, the rudeness and the laziness. Know how to eat in a top restaurant, know about fashion and jewelry and in particular flowers. Know how to hold a door open for a woman, let her go first and help her with her seat. Listen to what she says but have opinions of your own too. Show her respect and manners at every step and you should not go wrong.

11. Start listening and stop talking. Keep your date interested but don't turn into a one man entertainer. She will bore of you quickly because she wants to talk about herself too. Listen to things she tells you about her and remember them. Women love to chat so you need to learn to listen to her. Remembering things she told you will impress her by the bucketful. Fact.

12. Give up smoking now.

13. Lean to dance even if you have two left flat feet. Women love to dance and dancing is a physical contact sport (or can be). It is also romantic and sexy. You can be the world's worst dancer, I don't care. But if you stay seated when she is on that dance floor you may as well not exist. If you can join Salsa and dancing classes all the better. You don't need to be Travolta but you should have an idea of the basics of rhythm. Get started today.

Top Tips for Finding A Date

2007-10-06T22:11:00.001-07:00

Find a date so your friends say. Join us for dinner and find a date to bring this weekend they ask you. Where do I begin finding a date? And then you panic! Maybe you just want to find someone for yourself, and it has nothing to do with a social situation. Well done, I am glad. Now that you are in a positive frame of mind, finding a date should not be as daunting as it first sounds. You can perhaps think of seeking out a date as a military campaign, as your life work, or just as part of your everyday relaxed social life routine. You never know, one of these days they may well turn into something more than a date. Well, that’s if that’s what you want of course. In the meantime let us concentrate on the task in hand. Finding any date is never easy that’s true, but it can be relatively easy or hard depending on your attitude to it.

First of all, why are you trying to find a date? Are you looking for a date to fulfill a social function? If you are why not just borrow a friend to help you out. Why not even hire a date from one of the many outlets if you can afford it. Now there is a huge difference between hiring a social companion for an event and, well, you know what. Yes I am not in anyway condoning the other. I am simply suggesting that there are professional agencies who can help you pay for a good looking date if that’s the situation. That aside we are concentrating here on those who are looking for a date with the purpose of romance.

Well this is presupposing that you don’t usually meet people and there are not too many of us who never meet anyone. What is true though is that we often believe we don’t meet anyone suitable. Maybe we are a single parent with home responsibilities, or someone who works from home. Perhaps we work unsociable hours and never meet anyone to date. Maybe we work with people much younger or older, or perhaps we really don’t have finely honed social skills. It could be that we are shy, private, quiet in a group or just unwilling to make the first move.

Well whatever the situation you need to take action. The first thing you want to do is top ensure your self esteem is at an all time high. You want to find a date you are going to have a great time with so make them feel special by looking good yourself

Give yourself a makeover
Buy some new clothes and update your image
Get a new haircut or hairstyle
Get a full beauty treatment and makeover
Visit your dentist and get those teeth looking pearl white
Get a tan and freshen your skin
Get to grips with latest styles and fashions
Treat yourself to a rejuvenating break
Read some new magazines and go shopping just to get the feel
Join a health club and get into a new health routine
Go on a diet and lose a few pounds or kilos if needed.
Take up a martial art or self defense classes
Have an increased positive mental attitude

The next thing you need to do in preparation to find a date is to think long and hard as to what you really hope to achieve and whether you have any fixed aims and timescales. Have a clear idea of the person you are kind of looking for, but do not be too specific. Keep your aim as broad as you can and finding a date will be easier. The other thing I want to point out is to be realistic when looking to find a date. Don’t aim to date a Hollywood superstar if it’s not likely to happen. Keep your feet on the ground and take a long hard look at your own life before walking into someone else’s. If you are a multimillionaire then keep that detail to yourself for now.

Here are things you can do to help yourself find a date...

Dating Close to Home

Begin by looking close to home. Is there anyone in your neighborhood or family circle who is single with who you get on great. Often, people stay single simply because they are not asked out on a date by anyone, not because they themselves are lonely. It’s time to do the asking. And yes, that includes the good looking people in this world. There are lots of local clubs and activity places including evening classes. It is often the best place to introduce yourself to people of the opposite sex in your local community. Try to choose something that involves both sexes. I once met a fantastic date due to being involved in pottery classes which I greatly enjoyed.

Dating At Work

It is claimed that 87% of people working in London who are attached, met through work or started dating at work. This doesn’t mean that they work together, but that in some way, work brought them into contact. Indeed one of my best friends met his wife through a work related phone call. I do not think personally that dating at work or dating someone within your own office is a good idea due to the possibilities of fallout and neither do I think it is constructive to your career. Relationship tensions within an office can cause problems with other workers and can antagonize work related issues. So on that score I recommend you steer well clear.

However most organization are linked to other firms, there are many offices with many groups of working. If you don’t attend the office parties, then maybe begin. Try joining in after work or attending after work social events, from bowling to trips to the bar or comedy store. It is all about making new friends as much as finding a date.

If you really don’t have many people you work with or work from home like me then you are going to need to look at other ways of extending your social circle.

Get Physical

That’s right, join the gym. To find a date you should look your best. After all if you have set your sights high then doesn’t your potential date deserve the best too? Good, so get down to the local health club and look at the possibilities of getting involved in a regular health regime. If you do so already, expand your horizons and make sure you are not just at a unisex gym. Try other sports and healthy activities from yachting to running to baseball to anything you may not have tried before. You will make fabulous new friends as well as finding a date. And you will be fit.

Ask Your Friends

The most common complaint amongst people who are in their late 20’s and thirties is that all their friends are married. In which case my friends, it is time to adapt. Married friends will not help you find a date. They tell you they will when they can and they may if you are lucky even introduce you in a well meaning way to people who happen to be single. This can work. Double dating can sometimes do the trick. After all you should trust your friends. But more often that not it doesn’t help you find a date because your friends do not necessarily know who you are looking to meet. Really you need to be taking control and finding a date yourself.

In which case you need some single friends. Flash - its easier finding a date with a group of like-minded people. Oh yes. I know your married friends are your longest companions and I know that they may not approve of a group of new single friends, but trying to fond a date alone can be a lot harder than seeing a date with a group of like minded friends. In other words, there is confidence and safety when socializing in numbers. This will in turn open up new places and venues for you to visit. Your confidence levels may well increase exponentially too.

You can find new single friends everywhere. They are at work, close to home, at your clubs in your gym. You simply need to make some new friends and then join in. It is not as hard as you think. If you sat at home you will not find them, if you go out you will. When was the last time you phoned your old friends to catch up? Go do it now.

Join a Club

Activities really do bring people together and create new friends. If you are involved in something like a craft, or hobby, or sport then you are with like minded people already. You have something in common and it is a great icebreaker. If you are not a member of any club then consider what you are interested in and then consider if such an activity will introduce you to others. In most cases it will do. And consider this, there are many people also looking for a date who are also joining clubs for the same reason.

Join a Dating Agency

Dating agencies used to have a stigma attached but not anymore. Now its extremely fashionable finding a date online. Well your friends may suggest this is crazy but why is it? What do they know about it anyway? Nothing, exactly! Dating and finding a date is fun and very enjoyable. After all dating is about meeting new people and searching for a special connection. Dating agencies fall into two camps; traditional and Internet. The first are those traditional dating agencies which help you find a date but charge many hundreds of dollars to offer you the chance of meeting a few people they have manually matched you with in their database. They will then offer you the chance of meeting that person if both agree. It’s slow and long winded but it does work sometimes, though rarely are there guarantees of any kind. The main thing about such dating agencies is that they are often specialized in a certain area, maybe profession or financial level etc. Some may concentrate on the medical or legal profession; others may focus on say, executives in a certain region.

Internet Dating Agencies

The second kind of agency is the professional Internet dating and friendship agency accessible from your home PC. Most often, Like LoveBrowser, they are free to register with so that you can see who is in their database. The beauty of Internet dating agencies is that they are instantly accessible and you can search people you match with in private and comfort without spending a penny. You can view online photo Personals to help you find a date and you can take your time.

It is important when seeking a date to choose a reputable Internet dating agency such as www.LoveBrowser.com which can provide you not just with personal ads but also a safe and secure environment with advice and articles to read. When you are ready you can make contact with a database member anonymously through onsite email, chat rooms and private instant messaging. Companies like LoveBrowser now even include voicemail services so you can listen to a prospective date’s voice.

After paying a small fee, you can communicate with as many members as you wish , safely and securely and very soon you may find that you have arranged not just one date but you have found dates for whenever you like. It is down to you. No standing in singles bars or being hit upon by strangers, or having to think up opening lines. Just convenient and relaxed dating whenever you choose.

If you aim to find a date, you should begin straight away. It is not always easy to take a step like this if you have been out of the dating arena for years. Maybe you have separated or divorce or been bereaved. In which case, do try and lift your spirits and take your romantic life back into your grasp. Think through the ideas I suggest and add some yourself also and maybe now take the initiative. Life is meant for living, but even more importantly, I believe its means for sharing with someone special. Find a date for yourself this week but more importantly, feel good about yourself.

How to Flirt: Flirting Tips Help You Show Interest

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You are at a party and out of nowhere someone is standing close to you. Like a genie, they keep turning up, close by, catching your gaze. You go and chat and they stand in the same position as you, playing with their hair, laughing with you and holding your gaze. This person likes you and is flirting. How do you know? Because without realizing it, you are an expert in flirting and body language.

What would dating be without flirting. Flirting is fabulous, flirting is fun, flirting is giving out signals that we may be interested in someone, or we may be pretending. But within reason, flirting is part and parcel of our daily lives. Flirting can be harmful when it threatens fidelity but it can also be sexy and bring people closer together. Some people are good at flirting and some people hopeless.

Are you a flirt? If you are you know it and are secretly proud of the fact. It is sexy when you flirt and people like it. Flirting means giving people attention, it means, smiling, touching, whispering. In the right circumstances it is a powerful tool especially against the unwary. In the wrong circumstances it will get you fired. There is a gulf between flirting and unwanted sexual advances so beware.

It is useful to look at some of the key indicators of flirting and they can prove extremely useful when working out if the person across the table from you is interested. The one to keep your eye on the most is "mirroring". Mirroring is when someone copies your body movements whilst retaining eye contact. Its is one of the biggest giveaways there is.

Eye Contact
Pupils are dilated and eye contact is maintained
Eye contact combined with an arched eye brow
Any form of winking
Rapid eye movement and blinking
Eye contact where the gaze is held longer than usual. Men normally look away.

Hair and Mouth
Playing with hair in a stroking or toying motion
Eye contact whilst playing with hair
Touching your hair at any time
Lots of smiling, open mouthed and teeth flashing
Lip licking
Puckering lips in a simulated kiss form
Any form of touch of the lips or teeth with tongue

Body Movement
The thrusting of chest or breasts outwards whilst holding your gaze
The copying of your posture - mirroring
Holding your gaze whilst moving to music
Using a posture with legs crossed towards you
Leaning in towards you whilst holding your gaze
Open legged posture facing you
The display of flesh of arm or thigh

Touching
They will want to touch you and will reach out to do so with some excuse
They will offer to place food in your mouth as if feeding you
They will play with their hands and then with yours

The Way they Speak
Their tone and speed of conversation mirrors your own
Lots of laughter and questioning tones
In a group, you are singled out by this person for attention even in general conversation and questions. This happened to me in New York and I was taken aback how obvious it was.

The main thing to remember with flirting is that it is fun and so much more so when you are receptive to it and understand when it is happening to you. The best flirtatious moments will always take you by surprise.

Top 10 Dating Tips

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I thought I would bring you the top 10 dating tips I have gathered along the way in the hope of assisting and enlightening those who need assistance. If you are new to the dating scene, a regular or just simply someone trying to meet someone new there should always be time for top dating tips, advice, information and things to consider. None of us are dating experts otherwise we would have a magic formula to present to others. And no, looks are not the magic formula otherwise all supermodels would be blissfully happy - which they are not my friend. Good looking people the world over struggle when it comes to affairs of the heart. Think of all the major figures in history who have fallen in matters of romance.

The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no perfect tricks of the trade, no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right and no top dating tips that wave a magic wand. But there are some essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the way. Dating tips are just that - tips, they are not promises written in stone and different things will always work differently for different people. However, I have noticed that there are some threads of advice that keep cropping up and therefore it is worth reiterating my top 10 tips here.

My Top 10 Dating Tips

Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide who you are looking for, do your research and be ready to commit to dating. Half heartedness won't work. Also prepare for some let downs along the way but don't take dating too seriously either.

Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself.

Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't go overboard and look like someone you are not but maybe its time to throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. People appreciate appearance.

Have a good think about what your dating goals are and timescales. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.

Sort out your confidence levels in advance. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Do all the things that will boost your confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the married ones) to attending the right kind of social functions. Couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.

Choose those you have a good chance of dating, don't aim low but do aim realistically. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous then good for you, but be prepared and be realistic about your chances.

Work out in advance where in your neighborhood you are likely to meet people and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners. The kind of partners you are looking for. I know its a cliché but you will not meet people by staying indoors.

Take time off from dating occasionally if its not going well or causing dating fatigue. Dating is an ongoing process and so recharging the batteries and keeping the confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. So date in phases if necessary.

Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not bring you a sparkle. The fact is, most people are interesting and whilst you may not be out there looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.

Never ever make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. In keeping with this do not sleep with your dates early on if you want them to progress, so keep sex until later. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. Peak too early and you have little left to offer and emotions may never have had the time to develop.

The Break-up or the Blow-off?

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You go out on a few dates. You decide, "she's not for you, you are not attracted to him." And then comes the hard part, do you blow her off, just never call her again and leave her wondering why? Or Do you call him and tell him you are blowing him off? And if you do call her to tell her you are blowing her off, do you tell her the truth as to why or do you tell her a little white lie, the old, "its not you, its me" line to spare her feelings. Let me tell you, every dater out there grapples over this very question.

And the truth is there is no right answer, some people want to be blown off face to face or phone to phone because they want to know for sure that it's over. They don't want to be wondering day after day if they might hear from you one more time. But others, well others, they prefer to "take the hint", you don't call, obviously you aren't interested. And a lot of people don't want to be rejected to their face. What I have heard as a matchmaker is that if there were a guarantee that the face to face blow off would incorporate the truth as to why, they would choose to hear it. However, if the blow off is just going to be some lame excuse, they would rather not hear it.

Here are some break up rules....

1. If you are going to do the face to face break up, you need to do it within one week of the last time you saw the person. You can't let four weeks pass and then decide to log in a call out of guilt. Chances are the person has moved on and doesn't want a break up call just to assuage your guilt.

2. Only consider doing the face to face break-up if you are dating someone who can handle it. Don't reject someone face to face who has low self esteem and who might "lose it" from being rejected.

3. Keep in mind that "it's not you, it's me" is the oldest excuse in the book and the person you are breaking up with might not let you off the hook on that excuse.

4. If you break up face to face, be prepared for the person you are breaking up with to ask you the real reason why and if they ask, out of respect you should tell them.

5. If you are a guy breaking up with a woman, don't EVER say that the reason you are breaking up with her has to do with her looks or her body even if this the case. No woman wants to hear this or can handle hearing this. Don't do it!

6. If you are a woman, breaking up with a man, don't EVER say that the reason you are breaking up with him has to do with the size of his "you know what" or his performance in bed, he cannot handle hearing this! Don't do it.

7. If you are vacillating over to break up or to blow off, err on the blow off, its easier for most people to handle.

Do You Understand Your Lover?

2007-10-06T16:07:00.001-07:00

This sounds a different kind of title - Do You Understand your Lover? Does not everybody do? Sadly not many of us understand our partners fully. If we had understood our lovers, the rates of separations and divorces would have gone down substantially instead of increasing. You may ask- if I do not understand my love than how are we so good partners? Why he/she enjoys me? Why are we together? Let me talk about these.

What does it mean by understanding? It is again a difficult question. Knowing about likes and dislikes does not mean understanding. To understand means to know the values, the life goals and the priorities of a person. To understand means to know what incidences made what impacts on that person. To understand means - you will be able to predict the reaction of your partner at a crucial moment. Can you do that with surety?

In the beginning of our relationship, we all talk about good things of life. Our focus is more to please our partner. Our focus is to get more pleasure in their company. we never think about the underlying psychological motivators at that time. After the relationship develop little further, we find that many times we get baffled by what our partner says and vice-versa. That side of his/her character we never knew. If this is something, we can accept easily, we will forget about it, or fissures will develop at this juncture.

Not many partners are totally honest with each other about their deepest thoughts, desires and fears. If I fear that you may one day leave me, because I doubt your long term loyalty, will I ever tell you about that fear? Such hidden thoughts create a wall between the partners that can be never crossed. Only few manage to break it. Once you do that and tell everything about yourself and your thoughts and get to know everything about your partner, the relationship will grow stronger. These kinds of relationships were common in the earlier days but are rare now.